Do you experience persistent, or chronic, pain? Or do you have a loved one who does? You might know how hard it is to pace yourself on a ‘good day’, overdoing it, and then ‘paying for it’ the next day. Especially if you have high standards for yourself, then you may just push through the pain rather than be kind to yourself.
In this episode, I speak to Dr. Romy Sherlock about chronic pain and perfectionism, as they often go hand in hand.
Romy Sherlock is a clinical psychologist specialising in working with people with chronic/persistent pain. She spent 8 years leading an NHS pain psychology service and set up Retraining Pain, a multidisciplinary team to help people with persistent pain.
What chronic pain is
Injury or illness causing pain
Overprotective nervous system
Biopsychosocial model of pain
Life and identity before/after pain
Changing your relationship to the pain
Complete recovery vs. Adjusting to it
More than ‘issues in the tissues’ or ‘all in your head’
Pain as threat detection
Making rehab less scary
The stress and anxiety of pain
The link between trauma and pain
Perfectionistic tendencies and self-criticism
Overdoing and pushing through vs pacing
Pain experience in women
Hardwired to want to achieve and fit in
Feeling like a burden
Acceptance isn’t resignation
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
Resources mentioned – The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der KolkWhen The Body Says No by Dr. Gabor MatéLiving Beyond Your Pain by JoAnne Dahl and Tobias LundgrenExplain Pain Handbook by Professor Lorimer Moseley and Dr. David Butler.www.livewellwithpain.co.ukwww.tamethebeast.org